Interview with a Hermit - on being a hermit

by Sister Julie on June 9, 2008

A couple weeks ago I gave the first two installments from an interview I did with Sister Laurel O’Neal (blog: Notes from Stillsong Hermitage), a hermit of the Camaldolese Benedictine tradition — Interview with a Hermit - called by God and Interview with a Hermit - loneliness and community.

Here’s the final installment. How blessed we are that a hermit is blogging because we don’t often get to see what this vocation and lifestyle is like. The eremitical life (the vocation of being a hermit as recognized by the Catholic Church) is another way to live out God’s call to live fully and to proclaim the Good News of Jesus.

Here are my final questions and Sister Laurel’s responses …

3) How is the eremetical life a gift to the Church and world?

Sister Laurel O'Neal, erem.The eremitical life is a gift of profound love, wholeness and sanity in a world which lacks this so very often. I understand it as a life which takes human brokenness and weakness and allows them to be touched and transformed by the grace of God. “My grace is sufficient for you. My power is made perfect in weakness.” Probably every vocation does and says this, but I am not sure there is a more vivid example than that of a hermit who lives with, from, and for God alone, and comes to love others as much as possible only through and in God. We live in a world where people are often isolated and distrust the preciousness and meaningfulness of their own lives. The hermit says there is no need to doubt or distrust these things, especially if one is not rich or successful in worldly terms. God alone is sufficient for us, and if we can let that be true our lives have an almost infinite meaningfulness and import — no matter what the world says about such things!

Hermits like to see themselves as the heart of the church silently and steadily beating away at the core of things, mediating God’s grace to church and world. The hermitage is a small but powerful cell in the reality of the coming Kingdom allowing in it’s own tiny way, heaven and earth to interpenetrate each other. A gift to church and world calling each to their very best selves? That is what I think the hermit vocation is about.

4) What would you say to someone considering the eremitical life?

Good question. There is no one thing I would say, I guess. The first thing that tends to pop out is WHY??? Some of the things I would advise would include: have a good spiritual director who can assist you to really grow to human maturity and discern what is of the Spirit and what is not. Be clear that your motives for embracing such a life are rooted in love, love for God, for self, and for others. If you have substantial healing of your own to do, get to it before you make any commitments to eremitical life. The hermitage allows for such work to be done but actual commitments to the life need to have that out of the way as much as possible. Get yourself a decent theological grounding ( also as much as possible), and of course, PRAY!!!

Do you have any other questions for Sister Laurel? Even if you are not called to become a hermit, what are some things about hermits that you can (or would like to) reasonably incorporate into your own life?

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Mona 07.21.08 at 11:36 am

Dear Sister Laurel,
I raised my son as a single mom. We lived near a hermitage and spent time with the hermits who lived there. I raised my son in the Catholic faith. He is now in his 3rd year studying mechanical engineering and has become an atheist. Please pray for him. His soul is sad and mine is too. A word of advice would be welcomed. God bless you, I love your vocation. Mona

2 Sister Laurel 07.21.08 at 4:12 pm

Hi Mona,
I am sorry to hear about your son. Is he a reader? I can suggest a book (and an author) someone scientifically oriented MIGHT appreciate (and find articulate if Also, I would suggest you learn to speak to your Son of profoundly religious things in everyday (non religious) terms (the real, value, being, truth, etc), and be open to hearing his deepest questions (the ones below the atheist rhetoric). At bottom you will both be speaking of God, but your son won’t be put off by the usual religious language and baggage. Personally I think that usually this stage is pretty normal in young adults and can be a way of outgrowing images (often caricatures) of God that pass for the whole truth when they should not. This is not really a bad thing, but one has to be sure the baby (faith and God himself) doesn’t get thrown out with the bath water!! I suspect this will raise some more questions for you, so please feel free to write me at my own email address.

Sincerely,
Sister Laurel
Stillsong Hermitage
Diocese of Oakland

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